So, you’re on the market again and trying to figure out how to get back into the dating scene. It can be intimidating and tedious, but you should really enjoy it. Have fun, build yourself up and figure out what you want. If you’re ready to start dating again, check out this list of ways you can make the experience a good one.
1. Be sure you’re prepared.
If you don’t feel like your emotionally ready to start dating again, don’t do it. Like attracts like, and you won’t be attracting your most ideal candidates if you yourself aren’t confident in your dating decisions.
2. Leave the past where it belongs.
In the damn past. You live, learn and move on. Obviously, that’s easier said then done, but give it your best shot. Reflect on the reasons that things didn’t work out before and apply them to your new dating game. It’s guaranteed that your date doesn’t want to hear anything about your ex on the first date.
3. Be confident.
Confidence is sexy. Don’t go over the top and come off as cocky, but really shine from the inside. Be clear and upfront about your expectations from the get go. This will help avoid a lot of problems in the future.
4. It’s not a race.
Don’t rush into anything. Take your time getting to know new people. Start with messages if you are dating online. Get to know them a bit before rushing into meeting them. And even once you’ve met them, don’t spill all the beans on the first date. Really focus on getting to know them in different environments and situations.
5. Be open.
Try new things. Maybe you need to get out of your usual routine and find a new scene. Maybe you’ll meet someone that is completely intriguing but not your usual “type”. Be open to learn new things about yourself.
6. Be sure about what you’re looking for.
You’ve come this far, know what you want. Make sure your date has admiring qualities that match your aspirations and interests. Stick to your gut feeling and be sure that your date is the kind of person you’re looking for.
7. Embrace rejection.
It’s not the best feeling in the world, but if you both don’t have mutual feelings, it’s better to end it. Don’t feel discourage, rather take it as a learning experience. That’s the whole point of dating. Consider why it didn’t work out and move on. There will be plenty of losers before you find your winner.
8. Look nice.
Make the extra effort. Pamper yourself a bit before a date; you deserve it! If you look good, you’ll feel good. Show that you have a level a self-respect for yourself and that will only set the bar high for the respect you expect from your future someone special.
Coming out of a relationship can leave you a little rusty in the flirting department. But practice makes perfect! Have fun and flirt your little butt off!