Getting a date can be complicated. Some people seem to have a natural flair for it. Maybe it’s easier for those who have a sex appeal, are physical attractive, or are smooth talkers, but that doesn’t have to be the case for everyone. If you belong to the group of people that just seems to have a harder time getting dates with ease, follow these tips and you’ll have to add pages to your agenda. Your romantic adventures are going to multiply once you have more dates…
1. Relax and show confidence
First and foremost, relax. It’s ok to be a little nervous, but who wants to go on a date with a sweaty person who can stop fidgeting. Take some deep breaths and believe in yourself. Emit confidence and show the world who you are. Confidence is sexy no matter the situation and people tend to gravitate to confident people.
2. Expand your day-to-day routine
Generally, we tend to go to the same places… the same bars, the same restaurants, etc. You see pretty much the same people every day, even though you may not actually know them. The point is, if you haven’t been asked on the date or felt strongly enough to approach any of these people, the feelings just aren’t there. If you want to meet new people and expand your horizons, you should really go to new places. You never know who you might meet! But that’s not the only way to get to know people. If you like online dating, try to meet with a group that has similar interests as you in a chatroom, for example. People with whom you share hobbies and dreams.
3. Phone down, head up!
To meet new people and get a date, you must pay attention to your surroundings. Don’t text while you’re walking around or on the train. Take a look around! Take it a step further and engage in conversations with others. For example, while waiting in line at the movies or the grocery store use any excuse to say something. Who knows, maybe you’ll have something in common with that person. Don’t be scared to exchange phone numbers and even suggest meeting up another day. Love is unpredictable and appears in the most unexpected places.
4. Consider where you might find someone that interests you
A lot of singles assume that they have to meet a special someone at a bar. But if partying isn’t your scene, why would you want to meet a guy that likes to party and drink a lot? If you’re into politics, find a local event you can attend. If you like literature, try a new book club. The options are endless and truly should be based on your own hobbies and expectations you have for your future partner.
They’re not going to come ring your doorbell, so you need to get off your butt and get out of your house or your comfort zone. See what life has to offer you. There are plenty of opportunities out there waiting to be taken advantage of.
5. Be open to suggestions
I bet your friends know you a lot better than you may think. Let them help you! If they suggest a blind date with someone, do it! If they want you to come over for dinner with someone they have in mind, what do you have to lose? There are singles events happening everywhere, but a lot of singles tend to shy away from them. Why not go and check them out? If you feel uncomfortable, you can always leave. No one is forcing you to stay. The point is to be open and optimistic. Your friends and family may actually have some good suggestions, or at least some ideas that you haven’t thought of before.